After my oldest son had been diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome, I remember a conversation we had one day over his inability at times to control his outbursts of anger. He kept telling me that he just could not control himself and that I was being mean in having him go through our whole routine of disciplinary action every time he had an outburst. (To tell you the truth I was exhausted after going through it so many times a day, but I wasn't about to tell him that fact.)
What I ended up telling him over and over again through those difficult days was that in the bible there is no “clause” for those who are more inclined to sin in one manner or another to be free of the punishment that sin brings. Sin is sin and therefore it needed to be treated as such. There was no “sympathy clause” for those who were tempted in one area or another so that their actions would add up to less than sin before the perfect eyes of God our Father.
We worked very hard those early years on training righteousness into the heart of this child. And when he would turn to me and say, “This is not fair!”, I would have to agree. But then again there is no discussion about “fair” in the bible either. Likewise, some of us need to work out our salvation in more difficult ways than the next, but God our Father alone is the One who chooses those paths carefully and knows how much we each must struggle to be perfected by our lots in life.
Our hearts are sinful to the core. From the time of Adam and Eve and their first sin, the fact we all have sinful hearts is a reality. Hear what Romans 5 has to say about the subject:
“Therefore, just as through one man sin entered the world, and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men, because all sinned...Nevertheless death reigned from Adam to Moses, even over those who had not sinned according to the likeness of the transgression of Adam, who is a type of Him who was to come.” Romans 5: 12,14
And, it is from those sinful hearts we posses that our sinful thoughts and actions come:
“For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.” Matthew 15:19
It would be nice to be able to say, “But, I was just made that way.”, as a means to escape the struggle we each must fight against our sinful tendencies. Many have in the past, and many still do. We put labels on our sinful patterns, we look to outside sources at which we can point our fingers as the causes for our disobedient behavior, and yet we are so slow to call sin what it really it, SIN.
I believe that since we did not allow our son to take the easy road of declaring his diagnosis as crutch for his outbursts, that God allowed healing to come into his life. Thankfully, he no longer struggles with the sensory issues which were huge stumbling blocks in his pursuit of godly character and he is now a very calm and sensitive young man for years of struggles which he was made to endure.
In a way I think God does what he did for my son for each of us as we struggle with things in our lives, from over eating to addictions of all sorts. When we trust in Him to heal our lives and stop trying to make excuses for the behavior we cannot fix on our own, God, who is the Healer, comes into our lives and shows us how He can be our source to the more righteous life we had been seeking without Him. In the end we are not only more perfected in His nature, but we are also more encouraged by Him work within us, and more strengthened in character for what we have endured as we waited for His healing to come.